We use an incentive to motivate Nora to go to the bathroom on the potty, a pair of princess pajamas. All day today she had not used her diaper and was getting ready for bed when Spencer asked her if she wanted to go on the potty. This is how it went, Spencer said, "Nora, will you please go potty on the toilet before you go to bed?" Nora, "I don't want to go on the potty." Spencer pretending to be sad said, "That makes Dada so sad, don't you want to wear your princess pajamas?" Nora said, "I don't want to." Spencer said, "Just go on the potty for one minute." Nora holding up one finger and looking Spencer in the eye said, "I go on potty, I get candy, o' right?" To which Spencer readily agreed. As you can see our little negotiator got what she wanted.